Thursday, November 1, 2007

Why the Need for Another Domestic Violence Organization?

With more than one voice and national organization in the domestic violence arena claiming to be "Christian," the question begs to be asked, "Why the need for another one?"

The answer is simple. The loudest voices and the largest orgs out there who claim to minister to the spiritual needs of battered Christian women are not strictly Christian and are not carrying the message that Jesus is our only hope and that the Word of God, the Bible, provides the answers we need. They are trying to be all things to all women... Hindu women, Muslim women, women of no particular faith at all, and oh yes, Christian women too. They are promoting an unbiblical, one-size-fits-all, spirituality.

Oh, these leaders may use the name of Jesus occasionally, even frequently. They reference the Bible as often as it suits them. But some team with chaplains from all religious faiths. Others promote a mystical, unbiblical form of Christianity. And all, it seems, base their "ministries" on a christianized hybrid of Bible and psychology (
http://www.raptureready.com/resource/hunt/dh12.html), which all Bible believing Christians should reject out of hand.

These advocate/activist/ministers do not seem to believe, and they certainly do not teach, that God provided us with the answers to our problems in his Word. One very popular and very prominent leader who recently experienced domestic violence, promised her followers that she would seek "counseling" and then get back with them on the results. This is after publishing how many self-help books instructing her followers in victorious living?

Psychological remedies and New Age Spirituality (which are all too often one and the same) may indeed produce some temporary relief and seemingly good results but certainly not the lasting peace or freedom which Jesus alone can give to those who belong to him.

Since the release of my book,
Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence, I have been contacted by some very prominent heads of DV orgs, authors, and domestic violence activists of more than one religious persuasion. One very well known person in the Domestic-Violence-Among-Christians arena contacted me and suggested we work together in the task of reaching out to Christian women and ministries. I thanked this person for the invitation and sent her a copy of my book, Woman Submit! and links to my websites so there could be no question at all concerning where I stand and what my convictions are.

Needless to say, I never heard from her again--except to receive information from one of her directors concerning a nationally launched website that the Christian community is being led to believe is a much needed Christian resource regarding domestic violence, but in reality is an inter-faith site (any and all religions) . There is much about this new "Christian" resource that should be of great concern to any truly Bible believing Christians.

I cannot and will not compromise on the fact that Jesus is our only hope and his written word, The Bible, gives us all the answers to life's problems and perplexities--even the horrendous, life-threatening, sin and crime of domestic violence.

The Dorcas Network is a resource created to raise awareness within the Christian community of the prevalence of Domestic Violence among Christians (one out of every four women who attend church will experience domestic violence) and to empower all Christians to compassionately, effectively and biblically help the battered/abused women within their spheres of influence.

If enough Christians make a commitment to be salt and light in our world... what a difference we can make!

If we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem. Stand up and be counted. Become part of the solution--maybe save a life. Join the

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Bail Him Out of Jail!??

Below is an email I recieved from a battered wife which drives home the absolute need for an organization like the Dorcas Network.

Quote: My husband, a preacher, tried to suffocate me in his attempt to "calm me down" and all I hear from church elders (one in particular) is when are you going to bail him out of jail?

They did not care to find out what actually transpired - they were quick to demand the wife bail the husband out because he is her husband!! They totally forget the fact that he could have killed her and her children. Or worse, you will have church members throwing Ephesians 4 (wives submit to your husband....) at you demanding to know if you know your place!

What kind of counseling help can these church elders provide when they are quick to point fingers before even finding out the truth of the matter?

Forget about a safety plan from a church, or your neighbors for that matter too. I have found that my safest bet was with people who have dealt with domestic violence and know what to do. Someone your husband does not know about, so you can make your escape easier. End Quote

My Comment: It is a shame and a reproach upon the Christian community that almost no one in the local churches knows what to do in a domestic violence situation.

That is why I formed the Dorcas Network.

When are you going to bail your husband out!??

God help us.

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Friday, September 28, 2007

How do I support and encourage someone I love Who I believe is a victim of domestic violence?

Question: How do I support and encourage someone that I love that I believe is a victim of domestic violence?

Answer: If she is open to talking about the situation, make certain she has helpful information concerning resources that may be available to her. If she is not, all you can do is pray diligently for her safety and to keep your hearts and doors open to her.

If she is not ready to take any kind of action (legal or otherwise), pressuring her to do so will very likely not help at this time. In fact it could only make things worse by driving her away from you when she may need you most. But if she knows she can come to you at any time, under any circumstances--without shame, she may very well do so when the time comes. You can never tell when she will be ready to take steps in changing her situation that she is unable to even contemplate right now. So pray and let her know she has an open door (my own mother's was a revolving door for quite some time).

The abuse will mostly likely progress and worsen as time passes, and her safety may already be seriously compromised. She could either be minimizing the abuse and violence going on in her marriage, or hiding the worst of it from her family. At any rate, do not underestimate the danger she may be in. Do not underestimate the power of prayer. I have seen prayer work wonders and women get out safely when they finally face the reality of their situations.

Thursday, August 30, 2007

About The Dorcas Network

The Dorcas Network
This Woman was Full of Good Works...Acts 9:36
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Jocelyn Andersen, author of, Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence, founded The Dorcas Network in order to work with Christian individuals and ministries desiring to help battered women. The Dorcas Network provides a network of informed, compassionate, individuals who are able to respond to women who are experiencing domestic abuse, compassionately, effectively, and biblically.

Andersen believes that Christians should be leading the charge in the fight against domestic violence.

Before turning to authorities or seeking legal help of any sort, women experiencing domestic abuse often turn, first, to their family, friends, and spiritual leadership for assistance. Tangible help for women who are endangered by domestic violence can become more readily accessible to them through enlarging the network of compassionate and informed individuals within local communities at the grassroots level, and what better place to start than within the local church?

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